A romantic rut can do more than just damage your relationship; it can have a serious impact on your mental health as well.
感情有隔閡不僅危害兩人的關(guān)系，還會(huì)對心理健康造成嚴(yán)重創(chuàng)傷�！�— www.vikilife.com

When you’re fighting with your partner or you become distant, everything seems to become more frustrating and all you can focus on is the negative. The best way to have a healthy relationship is to communicate with each other effectively and often. While it seems so simple, it’s something many of us struggle with as we get wrapped up in our own busy schedules and forget what (or in this case, who) is really important to us.
當(dāng)你跟伴侶爭吵或疏遠(yuǎn)時(shí)，一切會(huì)變得令人沮喪，觸目所及盡是些消極的東西。若想擁有健康的伴侶關(guān)系，最好的辦法便是雙方多進(jìn)行有效溝通。說起來簡單，但做起來并不那么容易。很多人總是忙著應(yīng)付自己的日常瑣事，常常忘了關(guān)心生活中最重要的那個(gè)人。

Safeguard your relationship and your health with these 7 easy communication tips:
以下7個(gè)簡單的溝通貼士有助于幫你經(jīng)營感情并維持身心健康：

1. Talk every day
每天交流

Make it a point to have a real, open, honest conversation with your partner every day when possible. You’re with the person you love so you should be able to discuss things that are important to you without fear of being judged. Try going for a relaxing after-dinner walk together and talk about what’s on your mind. Just be sure to hold hands – affection is just as important!
每天盡可能和伴侶真實(shí)坦誠地交流。你愛這個(gè)人，應(yīng)該跟他說說對你來說很重要的事情，而不必?fù)?dān)心受到評判。試著飯后一起輕松地散散步，跟他說說你的想法。另外別忘了牽手哦——感情還是要培養(yǎng)的！

2. Compliment each other
多多贊美

Everyone loves to be complimented! The key here is to compliment things beyond the physical – although telling your partner they look great can’t hurt. If your husband is a great cook, tell him how much you appreciate his skills, and if your wife is a great listener, let her know. Compliments that go beyond skin deep make a bigger impact and mean a lot more.
每個(gè)人都喜歡被人稱贊！重點(diǎn)是你要多贊美伴侶外貌以外的方面——當(dāng)然，贊美他神采飛揚(yáng)也無可厚非。如果你的丈夫擅長做菜，可以多贊揚(yáng)他的廚藝；如果你的妻子善于傾聽，就讓她知道。贊美內(nèi)在的優(yōu)點(diǎn)，意義和影響要深遠(yuǎn)得多。

3. Be thoughtful
細(xì)微體貼

If your partner has a big meeting or a huge project to work on that day, send him/her a text or a cute email to let them know you’re thinking about them and to wish them good luck. If your partner stayed home sick, come home with their favorite soup. Little gestures show that you’re in tune with their needs and remind them how much you care about them.
如果你的伴侶當(dāng)天有一場會(huì)議或一項(xiàng)重大項(xiàng)目，那就給他發(fā)條短信或輕松的郵件，表達(dá)一下你的關(guān)心并祝他搞定一切。如果你的伴侶臥病在家，那么你下班后可以給他燉一碗美味的湯。這些細(xì)微的舉動(dòng)恰好體現(xiàn)出你對他的關(guān)心，表明你真的很在乎他。

4. Fight logically
理智爭論

If you find yourself in the midst of a brewing fight, be logical and specific about what you have to say, and most importantly, remain calm. If you’re frustrated because your partner didn’t do something they agreed to do, tell them how you feel without yelling broad accusations like, “You always break your promises!” Try instead, “I feel hurt because you said that you would do this, but you didn’t.”
如果你感到你們快要爆發(fā)爭吵，那么請保持鎮(zhèn)定，有理有據(jù)地講明自己的觀點(diǎn)。如果你感到沮喪，因?yàn)榘閭H明明答應(yīng)的事情又沒去做，可以把你的情緒告訴他，但不要一味指責(zé)大喊：“你總是食言！”你可以試著跟他說：“我很難過。因?yàn)槟忝髅鞔饝?yīng)過，結(jié)果卻又沒去做。”

5. Don’t bottle things up
切忌放任不管

Little things can blow up into big problems if left unattended. Don’t avoid talking about small issues because you think it’s not worth a fight. If you fight logically, you can resolve small issues quickly and easily, and nip a big relationship blowout in the bud.
如果放任自流，小事情都能釀成大問題。不要因?yàn)榭赡艽嬖跔巿?zhí)而逃避討論小問題。如果你倆爭執(zhí)時(shí)能保持理智，小問題絕對能迎刃而解，不好的關(guān)系苗頭也會(huì)被扼殺在萌芽之中。

6. Become an active listener
積極傾聽

Active listening is something that takes time to master, but practice makes perfect. Make eye contact, nod your head, respond verbally (things like “okay” or “mhmm”), restate what they’ve said back to them, and ask thoughtful questions. You can even make it fun and practice together – if it’s awkward, at least you’ll get a good laugh out of it!
掌握積極傾聽的技能得花功夫練習(xí)，但熟能生巧。記得要眼神交流、點(diǎn)頭、偶爾應(yīng)答（比如說“好”、“嗯”）、重復(fù)對方剛剛說過的話并進(jìn)行關(guān)切的詢問。多多練習(xí)，這會(huì)很有趣。當(dāng)然要是真的做不來，至少你可以一笑了之。

7. Say I love you
說出我愛你

There’s no better way to remind your partner that you love them than by telling them sincerely and genuinely. Hearing the person you adore tell you they love you is the best feeling in the world, so don’t take it for granted. Say it sweetly and say it often, and don’t assume your partner should “just know” how you feel.
再也沒有什么能比親口真誠說出“我愛你”表達(dá)你對伴侶的愛意了。當(dāng)你所愛的人親口說出愛你的時(shí)候，那感覺真是美妙至極。所以趕快拿出行動(dòng)來，甜蜜地說出“我愛你”，讓他一直感受到你的濃情蜜意吧。

Communication is the key to a happy, healthy relationship, and when your relationship is in a great place your mind can be too! Enjoy some quality talking time with your partner and let your stress fade
away!
溝通是一段幸福美滿關(guān)系的關(guān)鍵。當(dāng)你與伴侶關(guān)系融洽時(shí)，你的身心也會(huì)健康快樂！學(xué)著享受與伴侶交心溝通，讓壓力一掃而光吧！